what it means to be brave and vulnerable

what it means to be brave and vulnerable

To be brave is such an important part of life. We can not know true love if we are not brave, we can not truly learn and develop if we are not brave enough to try, and then fail. Being brave doesn’t mean that you don’t feel the fear, it means that you do feel it, but you try anyway.

I have been struggling with my confidence a little bit recently and feeling a little bit lost. It can be tiring to put yourself out there, whether it’s online through my blog or social networks, through my making, or generally through friendships and relationships. These last few weeks I have been feeling pretty exhausted and have had days where I just want to hide away from everything.

I try to remind myself that I am quite a sensitive soul, I always have been. I think about things A LOT, I feel a multitude of things all the time, I consider others a great deal, and how my actions will affect them. I have to really concentrate to keep my head down, ‘do me’ and not worry about everything.

When I am in the middle of feeling like this I have to challenge myself to be brave, and do things that I feel a bit uncomfortable with, or am scared of. Whilst trying to balance that with giving myself a break, not being too hard on myself, and applauding myself for having a go.

I don’t want life and opportunities to pass me by because I can sometimes feel unsure of myself. If my three year old can be brave and fearless, then so can I.

I write this post not in the hope of sympathy, or in the hope that you will give my ego a good boost, but simply because I can not be the only one who feels like this sometimes. I have a sneaky suspicion that lots of people feel like this lots of the time, but that we have gotten quite good at hiding it.

To the outside world, and even to some friends and family I might appear confident, and secure in what I am doing all the time. Of course this can not be true. We are all human and we all have insecurities.

Maybe to some, being sensitive and vulnerable is considered a weakness, and sometimes I sure feel that way, that it holds me back, or slows me down, but also, it is this aspect of me that drives me to write, to create, to make, to express, to share, to connect with all the good things that are in this world.

I must remember to take more comfort in the fact that I am joining in. I get to be creative and share personal experiences with others, and even though it can be raw to share something you have poured your heart into – that this in itself is brave.

I hope this post inspires you to be brave and vulnerable, to challenge yourself and put yourself ‘out there’. Remember that if you are feeling unsure of everything, you are not alone. Go get a hug from your nearest and dearest and dare to be brave… you never know… magical things might happen.

 

 

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  • This is lovely, Melanie. It’s always reassuring to here other folk have similar experience and struggles, and it’s inspiring too! Here’s to daring to be brave and vulnerable! Happy Friday x

    • geoffreyandgrace

      Thanks Ruth, glad you found it inspiring. Yes it’s always nice to know your not alone. Happy Friday to you too 🙂

  • A beautiful post, Melanie. I can relate to it all, a lot. I often want to run away and hide! Being brave and giving things a go is so important – what’s it they say – if you’re not failing, you’re not trying hard enough? I think we just need to be kind to ourselves and recognise all the great things we have done – so easy for our inner critics to judge ourselves far more harshly than others! It was so lovely to meet you and share the other day, would love to do it again. xxx

    • geoffreyandgrace

      Thank you Zoe 🙂 I think you are right about our inner critic, and yes we need to applaud ourselves more. Really lovely to meet you too, I so enjoyed our chat. Would love to do it again XXx

  • thank you for sharing this post Melanie, and for being so open and honest. you are not the only one that feels like this. I think sometimes being brave is saying no to things others ask of you because you know yourself enough to accept that you don’t want to do it, even if you are concerned about how it might look outwardly. But I too battle with that idea of letting life pass by because I worry too much to live. x

    • geoffreyandgrace

      Thanks Katie 🙂 I think it’s good to be open and honest about life, then we can learn from each other, and it’s so good to feel that connection of identifying with what someone else is feeling. Have a lovely weekend X

  • Great post Melanie, I feel like this quite often too x the social media side of things (although mostly positive) can be a bit overwhelming somedays – and hard not to compare ourselves to others on occasion. It’s good to hide from it all for a bit and get out in the fresh air I think! xxx 🙂

    • geoffreyandgrace

      Thanks Jeska, yes it can be hard to keep up with it all, can’t it. I also find getting outdoors really helps, there’s not much that can’t be put into perspective by a bit of time on the beach 🙂 Xxx