What a slow home means to me and why it's important. Plus, some things to think about if you wish to create a calm and slow living space.

Since buying this house, over three years ago now, we have been trying to create a slow and simple home. There are some weeks when I glance around our home and the space is far from slow and simple, and having a slow home feels as elusive as ever.

When you are in the midst of house renovations there are bound to be patches of chaos. We have spent the last few weeks with the house feeling topsy turvy whilst we restored a sash window and then moved all the furniture out of one room into another in order to paint a floor (more on that later.)

Recently, I’ve been getting frustrated with how slow the progress has been. I know it’s ironic for some one who writes about slow living to admit that, but I just wish we could speed things up a little. How your home feels, and the space around you can have a really big impact on your well-being, and at the moment I am definitely craving more calm and order from our home.

Up until now, it hasn’t been possible for me to give anymore time or energy towards the house. Plus, if we’re shopping intentionally and we’re waiting for the right piece of furniture to come along then we simply have to be patient.

I have noticed that I always work best when I can deeply focus on one thing, however that’s not always practical and most of us have to juggle lots of things at once.  Creating this blog space and all that entails, plus the freelance work that has come as a result has been my main focus over the last 18 months. I understand that I cannot do it all without running myself into the ground, so progress on the house moving slowly has been the compromise.

Something has shifted within in me though, and I have realised that if we are to deepen our slow living experience we have to start here at home. There is that beautiful Maya Angelou quote,

 “I long, as does every human being, to be at home wherever I find myself.” 

Whilst I realise that this is true in many ways, we cannot underestimate how our surroundings effect us. And in order to really work on ourselves so we always carry our home and truth within us, we first need a space in which we feel safe and at peace.

Sometimes you have to work from the outside in, and I am sure that by creating a calm space and a slow home the impact will ripple through and effect all areas of our lives and well-being. Not only that, but we will have a home that will support and allow us to connect deeply to ourselves.

My initial motivation for creating a slow home was to get rid of needless things and simplify our home and belongings so there is more space and time for the important things. Well, this is as true now as ever but there are several elements that go towards creating a slow home.

What makes a slow home…

The design and decor of the space; How calm a room feels, the materials and colours that are used. To me, a slow home has pockets of space, and room to allow life to happen.

The things and belongings that are in the home; How well they are organised and how easy things are to find. If all the cupboards are in a mess and things are unorganised it makes day-to-day things harder than necessary as I don’t know where to look for anything and more importantly I don’t know where to tidy things away. Of course the less belongings you have in the first place, the less ‘stuff’ there is to sort through.

Finally, the rituals, routines and the rhythms of the people that live in the home; Over the last few years I have developed (and am still creating) daily rituals that bring more moments of calm into my days. These are things I can personally do, or things we can do as a family, or specifically for Bailey that help our days flow smoothly.


What are your thoughts on creating a slow home? What does it mean to you? Perhaps your relationship to the term ‘slow home’ is always evolving? Would love to know what you think.

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  • I’d love to hear more about your rituals and routines Melanie – just reading the very idea of them made me think ‘yes, that’s what I’m missing’. Having a new business to nurture I’m finding it difficult to justify taking time for some rituals, so I’d love some inspiration 🙂

    • Hi Kayte, it’s so easy to get carried away with the excitement and adrenaline rush you get when your business is expanding as yours is… it’s not surprising you want to keep plowing all your energy into it 🙂 But, taking time out for you is so important and it will mean your energy levels last and you don’t burn yourself out. I’m just putting together an online course that will share these little rituals, plus tips and advice on how to create slow living routines that work for you and help you prioritise your wellbeing. If you sign up to my newsletter then you’ll be sure to get the details when it’s ready x

  • Oh I could do with creating a slow home, as ours right now is anything but that. With busy schedules for each of us we end up chasing our tails! I’d be keen to read more on this topic and how you live it and create it more in your home.

    • Have you subscribed to my free ebook The Slow living Retreat? There’s lots of tips and advice in there on how to slow down and simplify your schedule. You can sign up via the button in the sidebar 🙂

      • Thanks for the pointer, I’m going to do that now